People often ask why they don’t get what they ask for or why they are not able to reach their goals. I believe there are five different characteristics that subconsciously (or sometimes consciously) sabotage their progress.
Which one can you relate to?
1- The do it all – They take action, sometimes too many actions, and they are willing to step out of their comfort zone, yet they get bored or distracted and don’t have the patience or the perseverance to stick with it and see the results.
If you can relate to this personality type, ask yourself, is the end game or the big picture motivating you? Is it inspiring? Do you get butterflies from excitement when you see yourself reaching that goal? If the answer is no, maybe you are after a wrong intention. Re-evaluate your goals and commit yourself (for six months) to do what it takes to achieve it. Know your outcome and take action towards it, yet be flexible with your approach and results. Celebrate each win, no matter how small or big. You are cable of achieving great things if you cultivate a “NO MATTER WHAT” mindset.
2- The doubter– These people doubt everything and everyone, especially themselves. They doubt their ability to do it; they question if they are good enough, worthy enough, young enough, or thin enough. They use any challenge as an excuse for “why they shouldn’t” and give up easily.
What is the worst thing that can happen? Instead of making “mistakes” or” failures” about you, learn from them, and move on. You will never know your true potential unless you give it a try and put yourself out there.
3- The vague- They lack knowing what they want. They focus mostly on the problem and not on the solution. When you ask these group what they want, they can go on and on about the things that are going wrong in their lives, yet they have a hard time identifying what it is that makes them happy and satisfied.
One way to find out what you want is to identify your values. What is important to you? What drives you? What gives meaning to your life? See, hear and feel it, as if you have it now. Take a few minutes and write down your values. Then, using your top ten values, write down what it is that you want, describe your ideal life to a T, the more details you put in the better. The law of attraction provides opportunities and presents possibilities to those that know what they want. Think about it, how can universe provide you, if you, yourself don’t know what you want?
4- The perfectionist- The ones that procrastinate and have an excuse why they don’t take action. They are chronic learners and mostly spend their time preparing for the right time to start. (Here, here! I was guilty of this personality type and still, catch myself doing it at times.)
There is no sugar coating what I am about to tell you. So here it goes: THERE IS NO PERFECT TIME, THERE IS NO PERFECT PERSON AND THERE IS NO PERFECT SITUATION! Perfection is an illusion and a trap. (Read my article about PERFECTION here.) If we wait for the perfect time to take action, the only thing we have is a list of regrets and no results. Give yourself permission to be imperfect and celebrate the imperfections of life. NO ONE cares if you are perfect as long as your message resonates with them. Take action NOW and fix it along the way. Your gifts, your talents, and your offerings are too precious not to be shared with the world. So go out there and make messy and imperfect action.
5- The people pleasers- They are super service oriented and spend most of their time taking care of other people’s need and wants. Their priorities and desires get lots in need of being liked and accepted. These are the ones that eventually get frustrated, angry, and resentful towards people and life.
Your worth does not depend on how many people like you or think you are a nice person. In fact, “What others think of you is none of your business.” It is noble and honorable that you like to be of service and take pride in taking care of others; as long as you don’t forget about yourself and your dreams along the way. Practice self-love and make yourself a priority.
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Sometimes knowing is not enough; you may need some useful and practical tools to take your next step. Ask for support; you don’t have to figure it all by yourself.
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