The Masculine and Feminine Energies and the role they play in your relationship
How your energy creates and attracts love is crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship.
Love is energy at its purest form.
If we understand the underlying energetic dynamic of our relationship and work towards balancing both our Masculine and Feminine energies; we can be guaranteed a much healthier and prosperous relationship.
Masculine and feminine energy have nothing do with gender, we all have both energies within us. Typically, men tend to have more masculine energy and less of feminine energy and women, usually have more feminine energy than masculine. Although this can be totally reversed as well.
However, because of our upbringing and culture, we were taught that you are either a male or a female. So if you were a boy and you cried, you were most probably labeled as a sissy or heard something along the line of “STOP IT, boys don’t cry”! Or if you were a girl, and liked to play with trucks and enjoyed digging in the dirt rather than playing with dolls, you were labeled as a tomboy.
The fact is that society has separated the two for thousands of years. We were never thought about how a female should approach her masculine side, or a male should approach his feminine side in balance.
Characteristically, we were taught that we are either male or female with no mention or validation on the fact that everyone has both aspects in their core makeup.
For any relationship to succeed, and for personal growth and fulfillment, both partners need to be in touch with their less dominant energies. A balance between the two energies is what makes us whole and sustains a healthy relationship.
The masculine and the feminine energies are like the poles of a magnet. Depending on where you are energetically on this pole, determines what kind of a relationship you have. Whether you complement each other or continuously argue and bud heads.
If you are entirely on the opposite side of the pole; meaning the masculine energy is at its highest and the feminine on the opposite side at its highest, (extreme masculine and extreme feminine) what you probably have is a lot of chemistry, fiery passion, and sexual attraction, but not a whole lot of deep and meaningful conversation.
If the energies are close to each other toward the center of the pole, you probably have a good, stable relationship with deep and meaningful connections.
The imbalance happens when the energies fall into the same side of the pole.
Most conflicts arise when both partners demonstrate dominant masculine energies in a relationship…This creates a constant power struggle between the two partners. Both want to be in charge, both want to be the decision-makers, and both want to have things their way!
The most stagnant relationship comes from two feminine dominant energies partners where neither is comfortable in taking charge or making sound decisions. It is when relationships get boring, there is no adventure, no excitement, and nothing of significance is happening.
If a female has more masculine energy, she thrives with a partner that is in touch with his feminine energy. Feminine energy males respect and are comfortable with their partners being in the workforce, being in charge, and having a direction in their lives.
On the contrary, females that demonstrate more of feminine energy are content with a masculine energy male to take control and be the dominant breadwinner and the decision-maker.
Understanding energies, and how they can enhance your relationship comes down to one word: BALANCE. Where both men and women are in touch with their core energies and trust their partner’s core energy as well and are ok with displaying their less dominant energy when appropriate. It becomes sort of a dance when sometimes the man leads, and the woman follows, and sometimes the woman leads, and the man follows. It is getting into that perfect Yin and yang…where two pieces of a puzzle fit into each other perfectly.
Now let’s discuss the characteristic of each energy.
Masculine Energy- FIRE
Masculine energy It’s all about taking action; loves to build; and, loves to fix things. Masculine sees a problem and immediately wants to fix it. It’s protective. Most women are looking for a partner to protect them, they want to feel safe, and they are looking for the energy of protection.
Masculine energy is strong and stable; it’s self-confident.
Masculine energy likes to make decisions fast. It’s decisive. Knows what it wants and goes after getting it.
Masculine energy loves direction and a purpose. It’s competitive and likes to win and break through barriers. It’s logical.
Masculine energy uses words more than emotions, and doesn’t hold on to things…whether emotion or tangible things, it can let go very quickly.
Seeks freedom- Masculine energy love to be free. It Loves acknowledgment. Masculine energy craves importance; they love it when they are given a compliment. They want to be heroes.
Masculine energy is independent and analytical, representing our left brain. When masculine energy is appropriately used, it is creative, practical, and visionary. When masculine energy is misused, it can end in ego, anger, resentment, and have inner conflict.
Feminine Energy- WATER
Feminine energy, on the other hand, is vastly different.
Different doesn’t mean good or bad; it simply means different!
Feminine energy is creative and inspiring- It’s the energy that creates life. It loves beauty, and it stimulates creativity. It’s nurturing, it’s supportive, it desires love and craves to receive love to feel fulfilled. Masculine energy loves for her feminine to be receptive of his love.
The feminine energy is intuitive and empathic. The feminine energy is fluid, stormy, emotional, passionate, and it flows from moment to moment like the waters of a river. Feminine energy craves adoration, they love to be admired and appreciated. Nothing lights up feminine energy more than to give her a compliment.
Feminine energy is intelligent and loving energy that contains the quality of our compassion, emotion, empathy, and truth. When you are strong in your feminine, you have a strong connection to your body and intuition, and you can make decisions based on what you feel in your heart. Feminine energy is receptive, right-brained energy. Yet, if we are too much in our feminine, we can come across as weak and lose our personal power.
Masculine and Feminine energies are both equally important and necessary. To be balanced, to get things done, and to have a healthy relationship, both of the masculine and the feminine need to be present. We just need to realize when and how much of each energy is necessary. The key is BALANCE, a dance between the two and knowing where and when to use each.